Alexander Pieter Cirk, 41, flew from Holland to Huanghua International Airport in Changsha, Hunan province, south China on July 22 in the hope of meeting a 26-year-old woman he met online two months ago, known only by the surname Zhang.I never thought that the cultural background of a dating prospect would make much of a difference when it came to relationships.I also live in San Francisco, where it seems like I can never not see at least one interracial couple with the female being East Asian walking down Valencia Street.Allow me to share some choice words that have been bestowed upon me or my fellow Asian American lady friends by men who were attracted to us: You get the idea.Recently I was forwarded this op-ed piece and parody guide about dating for an Asian-American girl in the US.
Sure, they will go out for dinner and do fun activities, but it’s not packaged up in a formal and contrived manner. It’s more organic and instead of defining the relationship in order to know how to act, they let the relationship unfold and the label of boyfriend/girlfriend just naturally develops in the process. European men are comfortable with women, which leads to respect for women.
You can very well be born in America but have a more “European” mindset and vice versa. Perhaps this ‘score mentality’ is for bragging rights, perhaps it’s for validation so they can feel wanted and desired, or perhaps it’s a pure ego play.
American men will rush to get you in bed as quick as possible, while European men don’t appear to have the same rush (or desperation). European men don’t ‘date’ – in the formal way that Americans are used to.
She elaborated that they had discussed waiting a year until meeting in person before he decided to hop on the plane.
Zhang also added that she was unable to meet Cirk at Changsha because she was out of town for a cosmetic surgery in Zhengzhou, Henan province.