” I sat back in my seat and took a second to think about it, granted it was about in the morning and my brain was only at about 30% capacity, but his question really made me think.I decided to on the typical answer of the importance of honesty and communication, ya-de-ya-de-ya-da. We went on to have a 15-minute conversation about his friend’s relationship and how unhappy he is.At the end of the first date I decided to have a second date just because he was the sweetest guy and really fun… He has everything I was looking for in a guy but physically he’s just not my type.
We had dynamic "chemistry" — the unexplainable connection that movies and songs are made of.I was hoping he would want me back some time later when another guy was interested in me.When he didn't come rushing after me (he eventually dropped out of college and joined a commune, making him an unmarriable companion for me) I threw my emotions aside and logically moved on to a stable, committed relationship with this new person.Now, I have been dating this guy (pre-med, kind of nerdy, logical, strategic type of guy) for two years. He is smart, consistent, predictable and incredibly faithful. He has been very intentional with my parents and with his desire to love and cherish only me. There is no "magic," and I feel I could logically live without him if we broke up.I love him very much, but we do not have the same "chemistry" that I shared with the first person. I just saw the first guy again this week and was reminded again how strong the chemistry is between us.